Track Changes

From McKinley Valentine:

I actually learned this from the “About” page of a therapist whose practice was titled “Cultivating Confidence”. Giving away the milk for free, you fool!

Confidence isn’t “I am pretty sure I’ll do a good job.” 

It’s “I will fundamentally be okay even if I mess it up.” 

“Okay” partially means “I will not be cast onto the street and abandoned by all my loved ones” but it mainly means “my sense of whether I am an okay person is not dependent on me doing a good job.”

And, in fact, that even if you get fired and your partner leaves you and you do end up on the street, you are still an okay person. (I’m using “okay” to mean baseline worthiness, because “good person” feels more complicated).